How I turned my layoff into my exit plan

I Applied to 496 Jobs After My Layoff. Here Is What I Learned About Defaulting.

Four hundred and ninety-six.

That is the number of jobs I applied to after I was laid off. I have the spreadsheet. I went back and looked at it recently and I am not going to lie, it was not a great feeling. Because I was no slouch. Neither were the 150 colleagues who got let go the same day as me. Neither were the thousands of other talented executives I watched go through the exact same thing at the exact same time.

And yet there we all were. Refreshing job boards. Tailoring cover letters. Defaulting.

Here is the thing nobody tells you when the rug gets pulled out: the instinct to immediately find the next thing is not resilience. It is avoidance. It is a very efficient way of never having to ask yourself the question you are most afraid to answer.

Do I actually want to go back?

The math was not mathing.

I was 40 when I got laid off from a financial technology company that had just hit billion-dollar unicorn status. We reached that milestone and later that year 150 of us were gone. I had spent 20 years building brands, starting in advertising on the agency side with Fortune 500 companies, working on Procter and Gamble, then moving into tech because I wanted something more mission-driven.

I thought I was doing everything right.

And when it fell apart I put my ego aside, my very bruised ego, and I looked around. I was having a hard time finding the next thing. So were thousands of other talented, experienced, capable people. And in my soul I did not even want to go back.

So I stopped. Because the math was not mathing.

That pause, that uncomfortable terrifying pause, is where The Full Cup Co. was born.

What I did instead of applying to job 497.

I went back to school and got my master's in psychology. I freelanced to pay the bills. And I made myself a promise: I was going to build something that combined the 20 years of marketing experience I had worked incredibly hard for with this new depth of understanding around human psychology and what actually drives people.

Because here is what I needed to hear back then and nobody was saying it: just because they took the title away does not mean the chapter is gone. All of that value, all of that expertise, all of that experience, is still yours. They cannot take that with you when they escort you out the door.

I was what I call beautiful minding it for a while. Post-it notes across the wall. Kerfuffling around in the messy middle. And I think that is actually part of the process. But what I wish I had was a framework. A way to take everything I had built and map it to where I actually wanted to go.

So I built one.

The intersection is where everything lives.

The Full Cup Method™ works like this. We map your unique blueprint, which is the combination of your skills and experiences, your passion and purpose, your desired impact in the world and the market viability of where those meet. The goal is to find the intersection. That is your career design sweet spot.

I use myself as an example every time because I think it is important to be your own best case study. I had strong marketing skills, a lot of market viability in that world. But I had this whole other side of me that was deeply passionate about helping people, about psychology, about building something with a mission behind it.

We mishmashed them. And here we are.

Your version is going to look completely different. It is supposed to. One of my favorite client examples is a man who has a diploma from Le Cordon Bleu sitting in a drawer for 20 years. He was an operations manager. He had been quietly cooking for himself and his dog, then for a neighbor's pet, because he loved it.

We mapped his skills, his passion, his market. The pet industry is booming. He is in Santa Monica. He has professional culinary training. He built a high-end food delivery service for single pet parents.

Who would have thought? And also, obviously. Of course.

That is career design. Not a lucky accident. Not a dramatic reinvention. The intersection of everything you already have.

Everything is made up anyway.

I want to say something that might sound a little wild but I genuinely believe it: all careers are made up. Someone made yours up. Someone made mine up. You agreed to the title and the scope and you said sure, okay, thank you.

I have fudged my title before because the accurate one did not exist yet. That is not dishonest. That is constructionist. Everything is made up and the question is whether you are the one doing the making.

Human sustainability, the idea that we should be designing work around actual human wellbeing instead of forcing ourselves round peg into square hole, is not a luxury. It is a requirement. Something is going to give eventually. It always does. Burnout is a symptom. The broken system underneath it is the problem.

You do not have to blow up your life to start designing it. You just have to decide to choose yourself. It sounds simple. It is actually really hard. But everything is downstream from that decision.

If you are in the messy middle right now.

First of all, you are not alone. My most popular LinkedIn posts are not about my program. They are about me. About the shame. About the three years it took to talk about my layoff. About the 496 applications. People pile on because they recognize themselves. That is the power of saying the thing out loud.

If you are kerfuffling around right now, that is okay. It is part of it. But what if you could condense that timeline? What if instead of beautiful minding alone for two more years you had a framework, a process, a map?

That is what I built. Because I needed it and it did not exist.

If you are ready to sit down and start mapping your own intersection, I have a 90-minute Career Design Clarity Session where we do exactly that. You bring everything you have. We find the thread. You leave with clarity and a concrete first step.

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